What did the 28-year-old say to the 23-year-old?

I don't know what sort of epiphany I had the other day, but this idea popped into my head: What would my 28-year-old self say to my 23-year-old self? Regardless of how old you are, I encourage everyone to think about what you'd say to yourself five years ago.

Half a decade ago, I'd been married for less than six months, was thinking about purchasing my first home, and had just been promoted to management at a job I was determined not to turn into a career. So many things were knew and exciting, and I was impatient for a lot to happen. In fact, I'd dare say that I'm a completely different person now.

I know a lot of people who are 23, or close to it. They're recent grads with big dreams and a desire to get where they're going now. I was that way, too. I didn't know it all, but I thought I knew most of it. But now at 28, I don't think I even know half of it.

So, here's what I'd say:

• You can't imagine where you'll be in five years. Embrace that mystery.
• It doesn't matter where you'll be in ten years. Just try to be happy with it.
• You're going to start eating a lot of salads. And you'll like it.
• Religious stuff ain't that big of a deal. You write a lot about it now, but you won't later.
• Love your wife more today than yesterday.
• You'll love running again.
• If you want to find balance in life, discover how important both flexibility and stability are to you.
• There are a lot of fine lines in life. Learn how to navigate them correctly and you'll be okay.
• Social capital is everything and it always will be.
• You don't have a clue.
• Your passions will change in life. Sort of like best friends.
• Go see everyone get married, but don't feel bad if you can't make one or two.
• Get better at learning. Always.
• It gets a lot more fun.
• Ask for help and ask for advice. It's okay.
• It gets harder to lose weight and it takes longer to burn off a night out. So even though you want more, one piece of cheesecake will do.
• For the next five years, save as much money as you can, spend time with your family often, and make a list of every good idea that pops into your head.
• Keeping asking, "Why not?"
• In about 10 months, you're going to get food poisoning really bad. So, steer clear of the shrimp on Easter.

I can't wait to see what I think of who I am now when I'm 33.